D/s for Dummies

i stumbled upon an article that Thumper wrote in his blog Denying Thumper about explaining D/s and the different layers of the nuances of the D/s relationship. Not only was his article informative, but the other blog post he referred to is even better.

Both Thumper and the other writer not only clarify how D/s fits into a day-to-day life, but also is informative to the non-D/s community. You could send somebody who does not understand the dynamics of this type of lifestyle and i would feel that they would come away with a better understanding. Please go and read both articles since i do not even to attempt to try to do justice to the subject matter.

Formspring Me:Do you have any advice from a subby man to a woman who is new to being a Domme?

As a sub, i don't really think it is my place to be telling a soon to be Domme what to do. i really think your question would be better sent to my Mistress at Sensual Femdom.

But since you asked, i will give it my best shot.

i am assuming i am directing this to a woman. i would recommend first of all reading as many different male sub and Femdom blogs. No one couple has it right. Every situation is different, so You will have to pick piece from each blog to apply to Yourself.

Secondly, i would make sure there is a open line of communication. D/s is not for people who cannot communicate well. Make sure You know his limits and he knows Yours. Everything needs to be out in the open before You start down this road. Don't get frustrated if some of his limits are things You like. This will change and grow in time. There were things on my hard limits years ago that are on the "like" list. You just don't know.

Lastly, You need to decide together if this is just for play or the "real deal" Many of the bloggers i follow live the "real deal" as much 24/7 as possible. In those cases, it is so much more than what is going on in the bedroom. It is true submission and Domination.

It is a great lifestyle. Not for everyone. But i think more couples would be happier if they would just accept this dynamic in their existing vanilla relationship/

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Beautiful Femdom Art

i saw this art from another Femdom Site, Femdom Artist. i find the artist work stunning. Check out Francois Dubeau and his other beautiful work.

As seen at the State Fair-Crop Girl

On O/our date at the Fair, W/we saw this license plate and had a good laugh. Maybe the horse thing is just a cover for reality. wink wink.

Homecumming

Mistress and i have been working through some tough issues that have been around for a majority of O/our marriage. In an effort to gain some perspective and get some time to think, Mistress went up to the city and rented a hotel room for the weekend. She was kind enough to allow me to come up to the city and take Her on a date like W/we used to do. It was so exciting getting ready with a new sense of vigor and energy. Something about going back to dating is very good in sparking that, well spark, that may have become dim over the years. It also reminds U/us why W/we got married in the first place. Anyway, Mistress, daughter, and i enjoyed a wonderful day together going out to a fair and spending quality time together. The only thing hanging over the whole event is why it took so long to happen.

After some discussion, i headed back home by myself and spent the evening and the next day by myself. When Mistress came home on Sunday, my heart was beating fast like a schoolgirl out on a first date. i was so excited to see Her and have Her home again. This was particularly exciting because W/we do not spent any extended time away from each other and, at least for me, made me grow even fonder of Her upon Her return.

She was very tired when She arrived and was a bit achy from the driving all weekend so i offered to massage Her. Well, that turned into a full body massage with cocoa butter and the Hitachi Magic Wand. Mistress was almost asleep until She flipped over on Her back and wanted me to do the same for Her front. What a wonderful treat it was to use the magic wand and my hands to massage every part of Her body. Of course i teased Her sensitive areas in which She responded with small moans of pleasure. i took that as a good thing and continued to tease Her mound and Her breasts. This lasted a prolonged time until She came hard and She turned over and went right to sleep.

W/we may be working through O/our problems, but at least i know i know how to pleasure Mistress and get Her to relax enough to go right to sleep.